June 25, 2020
There are so many people in the world who will tell you what it means to be a good husband or how to be a good father. You will get a different set of standards depending on who you listen to. In fact, the media, social media, family, friends, and parenting groups will all give different criteria for being a good father and husband. So how do you sort out all of this information? We have some tips and ideas on how to be a good father and husband that are sure to help simplify things a bit.
Many fathers and husbands are tasked with what seems to be an impossible job. They are challenged to work a valuable job, be fully engaged with their spouse, and be fully engaged at home while maintaining a proper balance between all of the other areas of their lives. While this can seem incredibly overwhelming, it doesn’t have to. In fact, there are some simple tips we can share with you for properly investing time in the right way. Here are a few simple ideas to help you better balance all the different areas that demand your time.
As a dad, one of the most important things you can do is to watch for teaching moments. Having conversations about things as life brings practical teaching moments can be more effective than having a talk at a structured time. Some examples of this might be when a child notices something different about someone. It can be so helpful to use that moment to teach a child how to behave with people who are different from them.
One of the more difficult things for many men to do is to ask for help. With a push to be the strong one and the provider, many men hesitate to reach out for help. While some men can pull from prior experiences, not all men have that foundation. So how do men ask for help from others without feeling less than? We have some simple tips for asking for help that are sure to encourage you and equip you to reach out to the right people for help.
As both a father and a husband, being willing to apologize will be a game-changer for you. So many men let pride get in the way of an apology. Being willing to apologize to your spouse or even to your children communicates to them that they matter to you. It’s important to note that apologies should always come with action. Don’t just say sorry and then repeat the behavior. Apologies combined with changed behavior will teach your children so much about how they should act if they hurt or offend someone.
When becoming a father or husband, it can be tempting to believe that you are 100% ready for the task at hand. Many men have pushed forward believing that they can do it all only to be surprised by their limitations. While it can be humbling, take some time, to be honest about your limits as a dad or as a spouse. This may be a difficult level of introspection but it could be so valuable to your future. When you take the time, to be honest about your limits you are able to find ways to overcome them or work around them.
Within a marriage and as a parent, communication is so important. However, maintaining open lines of conversation isn’t always easy. It can be too easy to shut down a conversation with a well-meant statement or the wrong handling of a situation. Setting up guidelines in advance can help you to better communicate. It can also help you to have more meaningful conversations and avoid some of the more difficult moments that can come from a lack of communication.
One area where many men can struggle with is taking themselves too seriously. Society challenges men to be providers, protectors, and keep everything running smoothly for their family. Sometimes the weight of this can be too much and leave man fathers and husbands stuck in serious mode. However, your spouse and children need to laugh with you. This can look different in every situation. The most important thing is that you take the time to find ways to let loose and laugh a bit with your family.
Women and children can be confusing at times. Some of what they ask for just doesn’t make sense. It can be as simple as something they need from the store. However, it could also be an emotional need that isn’t met. One of the best ways to handle these situations is to ask for clarification. Don’t be afraid to ask your spouse or children to explain something to you again.
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